We've probably all experienced getting a half-hearted compliment from a colleague or friend and it probably didn't impact as much. However at the same time, we've probably give our fair share of the same type of compliments to others. But what would happen if we worked on giving out sincere commendation to others and what are some steps we can implement to make our vague comments turn into the kind of praise that can put a smile on someone's face for the day?
Well first and foremost, who doesn't like heartfelt compliments? It makes us feel better about ourselves. So when we give out real meaning compliments we can help out someone who may be having a rough day to feel better about themselves and their situation. However, did you know that giving compliments not only benefits others but also yourself? When you take the time to admire others and voice out a thoughtful praise to someone, it can actually help boost your own self-confidence and self-esteem. When you start giving out compliments, it can create a positive, uplifting chain reaction.
It is also one of the most powerful gifts you can give to a friend to help reinforce their value. At the same time, it can also strengthen your relationship with another person. Know someone close to you that you like to be around with? How does that person make you feel? Likely that person makes you feel valued and positive about yourself. So similarly, compliments make others feel good and who doesn't want to be around someone that makes them feel good? People love to be around positive people and they will be more likely to listen to what you have to say and do what you recommend them.
Now that we know the benefits of compliments, whether it is the receiver or the giver, what are some steps we can take to give thoughtful, sincere praise? It's actually a lot simpler than we think! Here are three basic methods you can try incorporating to make your compliments more meaningful to others.
At times, perhaps because of culture influences, the environment we grew up in, or we're just not accustomed to hearing sincere comments directed to ourselves, one may find it hard to accept compliments from others. However, learning to accept compliments is almost just as important as learning how to give sincere compliments to others. Have you noticed yourself in the habit of deflecting heartfelt compliments from others? If you find yourself struggling with this, try to remember that compliments given are like well-prepared gifts. It is there sincere gift to you.
Would you like it if someone refused to take a gift you thoughtfully prepared for them? Of course not. Likewise, remember that this is others' gift to you and accept it graciously. Don't devalue their gift (compliment). If you feel a bit shy, you can just simply say, "Thank you, that's very nice of you to say". When we do this, it can nourish our mental health as it can boost our self-confidence which in turn can contribute to more positivity in our life and in those around us.
Compliments are powerful. Sincere ones even more so. They can fix up a broken person. They can strengthen and empower. It can help promote a more positive environment. It can help us to develop more empathy for others and not take for granted those around us. It can also help us to appreciate those around us and show them the respect they deserve. When we take time to make others feel valued, it can improve our relationship with others and encourage others to do the same. With just this simple tool, you can improve not only others' life but also yours!
